I’ve really enjoyed an extra hour this morning, that I know I have to give back in the spring, but for the moment it felt great to sleep just a little more 🙂

Stone Walls

I’ve written about wisdom and how to seek it with the advantage of curiosity, perspective and honest self-assessment and I’ve written about time and generations, and about how love lasts. How it is passed down from generation to generation. But it occurred to me yesterday that it’s the hardened heart of those we love that is most challenging, more so than our own challenges to find love, truth and wisdom.   Because those that we love and cherish the most hurt themselves and all near them when they find themselves withdrawn with a heart ensconced within the stonewall house they’ve built.   Time will not change them as they continue to build their protective walls, and lay traps for those that get too close. Wisdom cannot be heard through these walls that grow thicker over time. Only through consistent pattern of loving, of providing pressure on that wall, warming the stone slowly so that the heart begins to warm, then they may take down their own walls, remove the traps and allow themselves to be loved.

When confronted with conflict we so often revert to what happened when we first build our own walls, what our parents, caregivers did. If it was love that warmed our heart through the stone we hid behind then its love that we give, if  we felt a sledge hammer against our walls we will use a sledge hammer with the same lack of progress that we know. If we were left alone, in time we learned that this is a way to live, a way to be protected without knowing love.  We may do the same and it carries from generation to generation unless we break the cycle.

A heart warmed with love can then listen to wisdom, a heart warmed with love can in time love back and this lasts forever. Love changes us, not time, not wisdom… It’s love and it lasts!

Mike